Silicon Valley Psychotherapy
Helping individuals and couples reclaim connection when performance replaced presence
On the outside, your life looks successful, organized, and accomplished. Yet inside, something still feels off — restless, exhausted, or unsteady. You’ve learned to perform, achieve, and manage, but your inner world hasn’t caught up. We work with thoughtful, driven individuals and couples to help you move from performance to presence — to reconnect with yourself, your relationships, and what truly matters. You’re curious about your patterns, willing to face uncomfortable truths, and ready to understand why you think, feel, and act the way you do — so you can finally live and relate from a place of alignment and ease.
We bring together a rare combination integrating expertise in Trauma Therapy, Relational Therapy, and Sex Therapy, allowing us to work with the mind, body, and relationships as a connected system. This approach helps you uncover the patterns that keep you stuck, restore internal stability, and create deeper presence and connection in every area of your life.
“Unlike therapists who treat trauma, couples, or sex in isolation, my work integrates all three - because intimacy, attachment, and the nervous system are inseparable.” - Nicole Ohebshalom, PhD
Specializing in Unique People
Serving Palo Alto, Los Altos Hills, Woodside, Atherton, and surrounding Peninsula communities. Sessions are offered via secure telehealth throughout California.
Coaching nationally, and internationally.
You’ve built an impressive life—career, relationships, responsibilities. You manage work, family, and daily demands that others rely on you to carry. From the outside, everything looks right. Yet beneath the surface, something feels misaligned, as if the life you’ve built rests on ground that never fully settles.
You operate with clarity and confidence in high-stakes environments—leading teams, making decisions, holding responsibility. At home, though, your system doesn’t come to rest. You feel keyed up, emotionally distant, or disconnected from your body. Intimacy with your partner feels strained or muted, even though the relationship matters deeply. The same drive that fueled your success has narrowed your capacity for rest, presence, and desire, leaving you accomplished on the outside and depleted within.
If your personal life feels harder than your professional one—if success feels necessary for safety rather than a creative, authentic, and meaningful expression of who you are—you’re not broken. You are disconnected. You’re responding to patterns that once helped you survive.
You aren’t broken. You need connection — to yourself, to others, and to what actually matters. Not quick fixes, but lasting integration.
We work with ambitious, thoughtful individuals and couples in Silicon Valley and worldwide who are ready to reconnect—to themselves, their partners, and what truly sustains them. Through specialized, neuroscience-informed therapy grounded in trauma, attachment, and sexuality, we help you cultivate the internal stability and relational depth that allow success to feel meaningful, embodied, and sustainable.
Our work leads with emotional attunement while bringing conceptual precision. You’ll feel deeply seen and supported in making sense of what you’re experiencing.
We maintain intentionally small caseloads to ensure every client receives the attentive, personalized care they deserve.
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the BeTogether Framework
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At Ohebshalom & Co. Therapy, we use the BeTogether Framework—a comprehensive framework that recognizes you as a whole person, not a collection of separate problems to fix. This approach explores six interconnected dimensions of your life: physical, emotional, relational, intellectual, sexual, and spiritual wellbeing. Rather than treating symptoms in isolation, we understand that disconnection in one area can create ripples across all others. When you're physically exhausted, desire disappears. When emotions feel unsafe, relationships stay surface-level. When you've lost meaning, your body holds the grief. The BeTogether Framework helps us identify where disconnection has taken root—revealing specific patterns like the Mind-Body Split or the Intimacy Gap—and then map the most effective entry point for reconnection. It's a framework for therapy grounded in how you actually live—integrating body, mind, relationships, and purpose into one coherent path forward. Learn more here.
Our Personalized Framework:
About our Founder Nicole Ohebshalom, PhD - Founder of the BeTogether Approach
We bring together expertise and emotional attunement to what's rarely combined: trauma therapy, relational work, sex therapy, and women's health. Our approach is fluid, not fixed - adapting to what you need so you can feel coherent across all parts of life.
Trauma therapy/EMDR
Trauma is not defined by an event but by the impact an event has on the person. Trauma comprises our ability to engage with others by replacing patterns of connection with patterns of protection. In EMDR and trauma therapy, the focus is on the individual’s present concerns and symptoms while proposing emotionally charged experiences from the past. This may have a dominating effect on one’s current emotions, sensations, and thoughts. For example “Do you ever feel unlovable, although you have profound love in your life?” EMDR and other trauma therapies processing helps you break through the emotional blocks that may be keeping you from living an adaptive, liberated, and emotionally fulfilling life. Read More
Individual Therapy
Therapy offers a safe and supportive space to help you move through difficult life transitions, develop healthier coping skills, and improve the quality of your relationships. Whether you are struggling with anxiety, depression, or a painful experience, therapy helps you to heal – so you can move forward with clarity and confidence. Read More
Couples therapy
Argue less, experience satisfying physical intimacy, and feel heard, understood, and deeply appreciated by your partner – those are some of the most common goals for couples counseling. Therapy can help rebuild trust after a breach, support you through life transitions, and give you the tools to navigate life together with love and compassion. Read More
Sex therapy
Sex therapy can help you to have a loving, secure and intimate sexual partnership with yourself and another. Many people have a hard time talking about sex in a vulnerable, direct and authentic manner. Not talking about one’s sexual desires, needs, feeling and issues with sex, prevents people from having intimate, healthy and exciting sex lives. This includes female and male sexual pain and desire difficulties, and pelvic floor dysfunction and sexual dysfunction. Read More
Women’s Therapy
As women, we navigate layers of experience that often go unspoken—the physical realities of our bodies, the weight of invisible labor, the pressure to accommodate while losing our own voice. My work integrates thirty years of mind-body healing, specialized training in trauma therapy, and AASECT certification in sex therapy to address the interconnection between your physical body, emotional experience, and relational life. Whether you're experiencing pelvic pain, navigating perimenopause, carrying the mental load, or reclaiming your capacity to advocate for yourself, this work honors the complexity of women's wellbeing. You don't need to be fixed—you need space to reconnect with yourself, your body, and what genuinely sustains you. Read More.
Maternal mental health
Here for you throughout every stage of motherhood, including fertility, perinatal and motherhood. Many women need support as they are single parents by choice, infertility and stress while trying to conceive, new parenting stress, perinatal loss and prenatal/postnatal stress. Women with a history of pregnancy loss are at increased risk for depression and anxiety, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), after the birth of a child. 1 in 7 women experience postpartum depression in the year after they give birth. Maternal mental health sessions can be the support to talk about the dark storm that can often comes during these stages of womanhood. Read More
Our Blog
Desire discrepancy refers to the situation where partners in a relationship have different levels of sexual desire or interest.