You deserve a loving, healthy relationship. And it starts with YOU.
Transformative therapy for individuals and couples to thrive and reclaim connection when performance replaced presence
I help those who achieve at the top of their fields sustain connection, desire, and presence in life and relationships. I specialize in high-functioning emotional adaptation—patterns that once ensured success but now limit intimacy, vitality, and aliveness.
On the outside, life appears successful, organized, and accomplished. Inside, something feels unsettled—restless, exhausted, or quietly unsteady. You’ve learned how to perform, achieve, and manage under pressure, yet your inner world hasn’t kept pace with your external success.
I work with thoughtful, driven individuals and couples seeking therapy for high-functioning anxiety, relational disconnection, or burnout associated with high-stakes careers and leadership roles. Together, we move from performance to presence—understanding the emotional and relational patterns shaping how you think, feel, and relate, and loosening what no longer serves you.
This work is not about coping strategies alone. It’s for those curious about their inner lives, willing to face uncomfortable truths, and interested in lasting change that supports deeper connection—with themselves, their partners, and what genuinely matters.
Nicole brings together a combination of interpersonal, trauma and sex therapy, working with mind, body, and relationship as an integrated system. Her work helps identify and shift deeply ingrained adaptive patterns to bring more stability, intimacy, and presence.
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You’ve built an impressive life—career, relationships, responsibilities. You manage work, family, and daily demands that others rely on you to carry. From the outside, everything looks right. Yet beneath the surface, something feels misaligned, as if the life you’ve built rests on ground that never fully settles.
You operate with clarity and confidence in high-stakes environments—leading teams, making decisions, holding responsibility. When the stakes are high, every decision, every interaction, and every relationship carries weight. We work with clients to navigate these layers with clarity and connection.
At home, though, your system doesn’t come to rest. You feel keyed up, emotionally distant, or disconnected from your body. Intimacy with your partner feels strained or muted, even though the relationship matters deeply. The same drive that fueled your success has narrowed your capacity for rest, presence, and desire, leaving you accomplished on the outside and depleted within.
If your personal life feels harder than your professional one—if success feels necessary for safety rather than a creative, authentic, and meaningful expression of who you are—you’re not broken. You are disconnected. You’re responding to patterns that once helped you survive.
You aren’t broken. You need connection — to yourself, to others, and to what actually matters. Not quick fixes, but lasting integration.
I work with ambitious, thoughtful individuals and couples in Silicon Valley and worldwide who are ready to reconnect—to themselves, their partners, and what truly sustains them. Through specialized, neuroscience-informed therapy grounded in trauma, attachment, and sexuality, we help you cultivate the internal stability and relational depth that allow success to feel meaningful, embodied, and sustainable.
This work leads with emotional attunement while bringing conceptual precision. You’ll feel deeply seen and supported in making sense of what you’re experiencing.
I maintain intentionally small caseloads to ensure every client receives the attentive, personalized care they deserve.
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the BeTogether Framework
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The BeTogether Framework is a comprehensive framework that recognizes you as a whole person, not a collection of separate problems to fix. This approach explores six interconnected dimensions of your life: physical, emotional, relational, intellectual, sexual, and spiritual wellbeing. Rather than treating symptoms in isolation, we understand that disconnection in one area can create ripples across all others. When you're physically exhausted, desire disappears. When emotions feel unsafe, relationships stay surface-level. When you've lost meaning, your body holds the grief. The BeTogether Framework helps us identify where disconnection has taken root—revealing specific patterns like the Mind-Body Split or the Intimacy Gap—and then map the most effective entry point for reconnection. It's a framework for therapy grounded in how you actually live—integrating body, mind, relationships, and purpose into one coherent path forward. Learn more here.
Here, expertise meets emotional attunement in a rare integration: trauma therapy, relational and couples work, sex therapy, and women's health. This approach flows fluidly—adapting precisely to your needs so you feel coherent, connected, and vibrant across every part of life.
EMDR Intensives
When chronic stress, trauma, or relational patterns have been managed for years, standard weekly sessions often feel too slow for the pace of a high-pressure life. EMDR intensives offer a concentrated, efficient path to process and integrate what has been held in the nervous system—typically 6-12 hours over 2-3 consecutive days, tailored to your availability and goals. For founders, executives, and others whose external success outpaces internal ease, this format allows deeper shifts without the disruption of months-long weekly commitments, helping you return to leadership, relationships, and rest with greater coherence and capacity. Read More
Happiness Coaching
Happiness coaching complements traditional therapy by focusing on proactive strategies to amplify joy, resilience, and fulfillment in high-achieving lives. For founders, executives, and couples who have mastered external success, this coaching uncovers pathways to sustained inner wellbeing—building habits that foster presence, gratitude, and meaningful connection amid demanding schedules. Through tailored sessions blending positive psychology, somatic practices, and relational insights, clients cultivate a vibrant baseline of happiness that supports both personal vitality and professional edge. Read More
Couples therapy
Argue less, experience satisfying physical intimacy, and feel heard, understood, and deeply appreciated by your partner – those are some of the most common goals for couples counseling. Therapy can help rebuild trust after a breach, support you through life transitions, and give you the tools to navigate life together with love and compassion. Read More
Sex therapy
Sex therapy can help you to have a loving, secure and intimate sexual partnership with yourself and another. Many people have a hard time talking about sex in a vulnerable, direct and authentic manner. Not talking about one’s sexual desires, needs, feeling and issues with sex, prevents people from having intimate, healthy and exciting sex lives. This includes female and male sexual pain and desire difficulties, and pelvic floor dysfunction and sexual dysfunction. Read More
Women’s Therapy
As women, we navigate layers of experience that often go unspoken—the physical realities of our bodies, the weight of invisible labor, the pressure to accommodate while losing our own voice. My work integrates thirty years of mind-body healing, specialized training in trauma therapy, and AASECT certification in sex therapy to address the interconnection between your physical body, emotional experience, and relational life. Whether you're experiencing pelvic pain, navigating perimenopause, carrying the mental load, or reclaiming your capacity to advocate for yourself, this work honors the complexity of women's wellbeing. You don't need to be fixed—you need space to reconnect with yourself, your body, and what genuinely sustains you. Read More.
Maternal mental health
Here for you throughout every stage of motherhood, including fertility, perinatal and motherhood. Many women need support as they are single parents by choice, infertility and stress while trying to conceive, new parenting stress, perinatal loss and prenatal/postnatal stress. Women with a history of pregnancy loss are at increased risk for depression and anxiety, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), after the birth of a child. 1 in 7 women experience postpartum depression in the year after they give birth. Maternal mental health sessions can be the support to talk about the dark storm that can often comes during these stages of womanhood. Read More